Because I had my children so young, my friends all have kids that are still in elementary school. I am often asked for advice on school-related issues since 1) I am a teacher and 2) I have already “been there, done that.” So, in honor of the beginning of a new school year, here is my list of top 5 things parents of school-aged children should know:
1) Be Involved. Research has proven time and time again that the most successful children in school have parents who are involved in their education. Go to Open House, PTA meetings, and attend Parent Conference night – even if your child is doing well. If your child’s teacher has a website, visit it often. Know what the homework is and assist when necessary (which is completely different from doing it for them.) If possible, volunteer in your child’s classroom. I promise you, there is always something that the teacher can have you do. Since I was a teacher for most of my children’s educational careers, I would use my personal days to spend time at their schools. Even an hour of your time would be greatly appreciated.
2) Be supportive. Make sure your child understands that you and the teacher are on the same side. If you have concerns about anything involving the classroom or school, contact the teacher immediately. Little issues become major problems when they aren’t resolved right away. However, that doesn’t mean that you should belittle or undermine your child’s teacher in front of her. Your child won’t respect her teacher if she feels that you don’t.
3) Be responsible. If you drive/walk with your child to school, get him there on time (and pick him up when you’re supposed to). Pay attention to the notes that are sent home, emails and newsletters that are distributed, and the school website. Read the school marquee and listen to the voicemails that get sent out. Your child will follow your example. If you demonstrate that school isn’t important by your actions, that’s what they will grow up to believe.
4) Be inquisitive. Ask your child about her day. Find out what she is reading and learning. Demonstrate a true interest when she tells you. Praise her when she does well on an assignment, and ask questions when she doesn’t. Ask her what she did well and what she needs to work on. Ask about the art projects, music classes, and PE activities as well. Find out everything you can. It will help foster a strong relationship with your child, plus it gives you the foundation for the first three principles mentioned.
5) Be appreciative. Let your child’s teachers know how much you appreciate them – and not just during Teacher Appreciation Week. You would be amazed at how much a small note or quick email can brighten a teacher’s day (I speak from experience). In these turbulent times for education, the teachers that are still in the trenches do it for their love of the children they teach. Your children. The same children who you couldn’t wait to get out of the house and back into school at the end of the summer.
“Teachers teach because they care. Teaching young people is what they do best. It requires long hours, patience, and care.”
–Horace Mann
Words from the Long Run 